So You’re Engaged! What Should You Do First?
Hurrah! It’s happened! The question has been popped and now you’re engaged! It’s time for huge amounts of excitement, loads of congratulations and much enjoyment. But, there’s no denying the fact that with that engagement ring comes the need to get organised so today’s feature will look at what needs to be done first, what can wait and what should be avoided at all costs. If you want that feeling of newly engaged bliss to continue for as long as possible, read on.
So, first up, let’s talk about who to tell. Obviously, the temptation is to tell EVERYONE as soon as possible but take it from us when we tell you that this isn’t always the best idea. Before you start announcing your engagement, it’s worth having a think about some of the questions that will no doubt come your way as soon as #engaged and #ringselfie hit social media.
You’re going to be asked when you’re getting married and where you’ll be getting married. You’ll be offered advice, recommendations and tips from everyone you know and there’s no doubt that a few of your friends will be on tenterhooks wanting to know if they’ve made the bridesmaid shortlist. And that’s just the start of it.
To save yourself from feeling inundated and overwhelmed, either make a few decisions before you start telling people or come up with a line that will buy you some space and time first. ‘We’re not even going to start planning until we’ve just enjoyed being engaged for a while’ or ‘At the moment, we’re just enjoying being engaged’ should be enough to stop most pesky inquisitors in their tracks!
Secondly, what needs to be done first? Well, we’re sure you don’t need us to tell you that weddings cost money so the first thing to do is to work out what you can afford to spend. There’s nothing more upsetting than diving into planning and falling in love with venues and suppliers that are simply out of your budget. At this early stage, don’t worry about apportioning amounts but do think about what’s important to you. Give these suppliers a little star on the list and then start your research with costs for them and let everything else follow.
At this point, it’s wise to have at least a season in mind for your wedding (unless, of course, you’re absolutely tied to certain dates because or work or other commitments) and a general idea about the style of the wedding that you might like to have. This definitely needs to involve conversations with your partner because the best weddings are ones that reflect the personalities of both parties!
The first ‘proper’ booking for your wedding is likely to be your venue. We love the venue hunting guides on Coco Wedding Venues and then, once your date and location is confirmed, you can start researching other suppliers because most will want to know when and where you’re tying the knot when you enquire.
We don’t want to come across as boring old killjoys (because we know how brilliant it feels buying your first wedding magazine or discovering your first wedding blog) but try and avoid getting too wrapped up with details too soon. You don’t need to be worrying about fonts for your invitations or favours at this stage, especially if you’ve not booked your ceremony or photographer! Everything will come together and it’s so much sweeter if you take your time.
Lastly, for the ultimate in stress-free wedding planning, why not browse our rather brilliant (if we do say so ourselves!) blog series? We’ll talk you through your wedding style, your bridal support party, choosing your wedding suppliers and your wedding budget. There are also pieces about knowing your limits, the week before your wedding, the morning of your big day and even your honeymoon, all without a hint of stress anywhere. In short, it’s all you need to stay fuss-free and fabulous!
Finally, let us wish you once a super happy engagement. It’s so lovely being loved!
Until next time,